Our son is getting married. We are so thrilled. He will be the last of the three to get married. As I was very involved planning and preparing for both our daughter’s weddings, this is quite different. I’ve learned valuable lessons by being the Mother of the Groom.
Valuable Lessons Learned by Being the Mother of the Groom
Both of our daughters had DIY weddings. We made arrangements, painted mason jars, made faux flowers, made the food…you name it – we did it. As the Mother of the Groom, I have much less to do. In fact, as I was doing my research – I found that I’m really taking a back seat role.
Our Responsibility – the Rehearsal Dinner
Dearest and I will be in charge of the rehearsal dinner. Which as it turned out was another challenge. Where they’re getting married the facility has a room available for the rehearsal – a very beautiful room with a view of a lovely pond. This facility, however, has a contract with a caterer. It took some doing, but I was able to arrange to make the dinner…I really do love cooking and doing things like this for my children.
Decorating for the Rehearsal Dinner
Once I decided on the location. I began to shop for tabletop decor for the rehearsal dinner. I want to complement the colors of the wedding and focus on the couple. I hope that this event will truly be a warm, loving event for all. Being a crafter and a thrifter, I did find great deals at Target and will be making some of the tabletop arrangements. This will make it unique and special for them.
Helping When Needed
My future daughter-in-law asked if I would help her create wreaths for the two doors leading into the ceremony. Would I?! But of course! We met at Hobby Lobby and discussed the colors for her wedding. The colors are black-white and green. The wreaths will be light and airy – mostly green and white. This was a fun project together. She knows all she has to do is ask. I’ve learned to let her and my son lead in any area I can help them.
Mother of Groom Dress
One thing I learned, technically, I’m not part of the bridal party. So, my dress shouldn’t match the rest bride’s maids or her mother. Also, since the girls will be wearing black, that’s a no-no for the mother-in-law whereas it denotes mourning. I don’t want to give a bad impression! I did ask my future daughter-in-law what her mother would be wearing and what style of dress would be appropriate. Once I had this information I did my shopping and found a dress I think will complement the whole party.
This will be a treat. Our boy is our eldest and we are so proud of him. We deeply love all our children. This will be a sweet moment of celebration for us. I hope maybe we’ll have some fun with it too.
The most important lesson I’m learning is now there’ll be someone else more important in our son’s life. I will have to remember how I felt when I was a bride – how the relationship of my mother-in-law affected my confidence. There were some tough times. I want to be one who will welcome my new daughter and to respect her new position. I and my husband wish always to emulate a wonderful married relationship that all our children would want to follow. Marriage is a wonderful thing. Children are a blessing. It is even more of a blessing when they themselves marry and our family grows.